Growing up has taught me a lot of valuable lessons, and the one I feel is most significant would be the importance of self-love. I had a pretty awesome childhood and did all the many things that most kids would but my parents never taught me the true value of self-love, which is fine because I got to learn about it throughout my 20s. But it would have been great to know that loving yourself doesn’t come as easy as loving someone else, or loving the idea of someone else loving you.
Now in my early 30s, after many ups and more downs than I would have prefered, I’m proud to say that besides my own daughter, there’s no one else I love more than my own self. It took a lot of practice and patience, but once you get to a place where you love yourself unconditionally, nothing or no one can stop you. Here are some simple ways to apply some self-love to your life:
- Friend cleansing – Nothing worse for your soul than to be surrounded by toxic people. Pay close attention to how certain people treat you and the contribution they bring.
- Remind yourself of all the things you love about yourself – It’s extremely easy to look in the mirror and pick out all the things you dislike but it’s also important to be kind. Face your weaknesses and flaws because it can really help the self-healing process. Repeating affirmations can also help!
- Let go – No matter who you are, we have all done things we wish we didn’t or done things we’ve come to regret in life, but forgiving yourself for all those things can help you move forward. If there’s someone or something in your past that really hurt you, it’s important to understand why and then only you’re able to forgive.
- Be happy with where you are – We all have dreams and sometimes, we’re not exactly where we thought we’d be in life, but that’s okay! Get rid of that negative filter and live in the moment. Be appreciative of how far you’ve come compared to the past few years.
- Form good relationships – You should surround yourself with people that see who you aspire to be. Not everyone may share the same goal or point of view as you, but it’s important to find the right people that understand you.
- Spend some time alone – You don’t always have to be out on Friday nights. It’s okay to say no to social calls and just stay home. After an exhausting work week, some down time is exactly what you may need.
- Exercise – Not to lose weight but to be healthy in general. It’s good for you physically, mentally and emotionally.
- Spend time with the people you love – Make an effort to see family and friends instead of just liking their photos on social media.
- Treat yourself – You’re a grown adult that works hard to stay ahead in life so, from time to time, treat yourself. Get that new bag you’ve been thinking about or a plane ticket to somewhere you can relax and unwind.
- Do favours – Help someone, do something good without expecting something else in return.
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball