Much like long-distance relationships, long-distance friendships is equally difficult. It’s a big adjustment to get used to when your friend moves a thousand miles away, especially since you’re used to spending time with them regularly. Over the years, my friends (and myself included) have had the opportunity to advance in life but it required leaving home and through practice, I have finally mastered this long-distance friendship thing.
You’re definitely going to have to make space for some ups and downs, just as you would with any other relationships. While my address may change, the friendships shouldn’t but of course this takes some extra effort and both hands to clap.
Best Friends are people you don’t need to talk to every single day. You don’t need to talk to each other for weeks, but when you do, it’s as if you’d never stopped talking.
So, let’s break it down on how to survive long-distance friendships.
Communication is key
These days modern technology has made it extremely convenient to stay in touch, so use that to your advantage. You can’t be physically be there so make an effort to do virtual coffee dates or get-togethers to keep updated in each other’s lives.
Use the luxury of instant messaging and drop your bestie a good morning text, simply to let them know they’re in your thoughts!
It’s very easy to lose track of a friendship when you’re not in the same city, especially if no effort is being put in. So yes, I can’t stress enough about the importance of communicating.
Things will change
The sooner you accept this, the better off you are. Things will change but they don’t necessarily have to be the bad kind. It won’t be easy at first but things will fall into place and you’ll adjust.
I remember crying from missing my friends so much but it got better with time, and I learned to appreciate my friendships much more.
Social Media is your BFF
Even though you may not text or talk every day, you can still count on the perks of social media to keep each other updated in your lives. A friend of mine recently chimed, “I feel like I’m so updated with your life and feels like I’m with you by just watching your Insta stories.”
The interaction on social media will allow you to have a close sense of friendship with your friend. Like, you can tag your friend on silly memes, funny videos, sharing inspirational quotes, doing throwbacks, etc.
Do something you can do together being miles apart
While being apart, my BFF and I will watch a few of the same shows and movies together, which gives us plenty to discuss about together. Plus it’s something fun to do and it helps you feel closer.
Plan a group holiday
Nothing beats having a great holiday together with your bff. Take turns planning to visit each other or plan a trip that you’d both like to go on. This will give you something to look forward to and teach you to appreciate quality time spent together while making memories!
Send surprise notes or cards
Aside from keeping in touch through the world wide web, why not go old school and make your way to the post office? Send a handwritten note or postcard with a picture of your current city. Personal touches like this one will put a smile on your friend’s face for sure!